I thought it would be a nice idea for all of us to post the key tips that have helped us survive & thrive during the transformational kundalini years. Ideas include what are the major things ( wisdom, diet, lifestyle etc) which have aided you in your journey. Looking forward to reading all your suggestions.
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Ashwagandha has helped a great deal with sleep and energy rushes during the day for full on shaking to a steady flow. 2025 is year of surrender for me also!
In 2025, I am going to practise surrendering and here is what I am going to do:
Start accepting every offer of work and spiritual development (I already have coaching and menttoring support).
Stop trying to control/resist my life purpose.
Continuee growing and being there for otherr people.
How do you surrender?
I think the best thing you can do is an adventurous mindset about the mental challenge.
While doing Kundalini opening, you see distractions for your mind, and you can also go through challenges, which appear if you want to get rid of old routines and create new, more thoughtful experience - you can become disappointed of friends, jobs and mental matrices. You can become aware of challenges to society and peace, which can need your participation, such as public work.
The realistic meditation is not only bliss and joy, but it also contains many challenging elements, and the way to higher goals can be challenging for you - when you get apart from your friends and jobs, but you do not find the ones, which would fit better, you can have struggles.
So, when you get into this mind, and you do not have readiness for mental adventure, you can break your mind, such as becoming paranoid. This creates threats - if you cannot get your mind straight, you would need help of psychiatry and medicines, which really only try to restore your old state, so you cannot become relaxed in the result and to go straight on.
Then, as the old monks had to go through stages of hermitage, eating less or working in nature, and they had to remain calm and balanced as their eyes opened to the level of struggles compared to the ideal, they could become broken, full of fear and hatred. Such kind of brokenness is not good and the fear and hatred have to be transcended into peace and strong mind, able to stay firm through the challenges of life and especially challenges of mind. So, when you start to see struggles around you, you also need to find the strong basis to still think the life is meaningful, and to keep a positive attitude. As the first buddhist meditations, Buddha told you see all kinds of demons and threats in your mind, but you have to watch them with neutral observance - in such case, with the experience, you are not becoming paranoid and weak.
This saved me from thinkling I was mad: https://os.me/courses/kundalini-meditation-course/
https://www.kundalinicollective.org/forum-1/general-discussions/something-is-off - I took together the key points in this thread, when your higher chakras become wide open, but not the root chakra. It's also a general theory of root chakra opening (to be read in order - it shows them in opposite order). Sadly it seems tabatha85 is not an user any more to read this here, but this is an extreme case of problem experienced by many; and it's also my case that it's relatively easy for higher chakras - up to feeling world-wide effects of my mental story, like I can sometimes move the world -, but harder for lower chakras - it tends to not materialize in my life in any way. I think with spiritual development this is the survival guide to also develop in the physical world. Higher experiences with people, those also remain in area of higher chakras and are not materializing yet - I have heartfelt connections on street, telepatic connections, and a lots of spiritual developments in union, but I those do not manifest in my life, I do not get friends, it does not affect my money, and it does not gain an easy stability of the material world; also, in the higher level - by those processes, I don't see yet many of the material structures changing and evolving. It perfectly keeps it on spiritual plane. Well, Kundalini starts from root chakra and I have seen many physical miracles, but everything needed to open my higher chakras, I do with joy and motivation, but for the food for my lower chakras - such amounts of motivation and power does not flow in my material life. It's good to give away some material things in case you want to become enlightened, there are hermits, monks and others living decisedly poor - but the material chakras of them often work quite well, they do not have material excess but they do not have much shortage as well. I constantly lose all interest in material pursuits and have to motivate myself a lot; I even like to work, but, then, I don't look for money so much ..for me, good reasoning why I deserve, need and can ethically achieve my material pursuits is a development step for many years - Buddhists have stories about "self-love", and loving oneself is more material than loving others.
Get out of your own way. Easier said, than done.
That's lovely Tom. I think prayer is very powerful- asking for help especially!
Breathe. Belly breathing has honestly saved me. During inner challenges and difficult symptoms deep breathing has helped me transcend challenges and keeps me grounded in my body.
Slow down. It’s easy to be rush around life. Eating quickly, moving quickly, short attention spans, rushing to the next meeting or next activity. K asks us all to slow down in its own way. Slow down and allow yourself to become more accustomed with the moment.
Let go & surrender : K asks us to let go of our attachments. Career, relationships, habits, addictions. The journey to inner freedom means being freed of all attachments, getting good at letting go is a key skill for getting buy.
Exercise: any sort of movement can help us return to our body, it helps with grounding and bringing you back to the simple pleasures of living.
Food. Your diet has an effect on the energy. We are all different, for some you might need to start eating more meat which helps ground the energy. I was a vegetarian before kundalini. Meat was the only thing that really helped ground my energy. For others they might need to stop eating meet, or sugar. In short, listen to your body, and what it needs.
Stay Normal. We are challenged with an assortment of unusual, and sometimes chaotic experiences. I found it helpful to lead a simple and fairly normal life to help ground the process. It takes a while to step into the awakening journey. In truth, it’s perfectly normal and it asks for you to walk the path of normality. In doing this we are allowed to witness and experience the extraordinary in every day reality.
Grounding. Grounding can happen in a million different ways. Diet, walking bare foot, sleeping, grounding mats and sheets, drinking water, breathing, hugging, being in nature, being with animals. You will need to explore for yourself what works and what doesn’t.
Have faith. Trust in the process, what ever happens you have chosen this path. Know that you are learning and evolving, and growing. Always know there is meaning and purpose to your journey. You can do this.
Prayer. Prayer has been a fundamental part of my journey. Helping me along the way and giving me solace and peace during stormy periods.
Journal. Write every day about your journey. It will process and make sense of what is happening.
- Create a calm safe environment where you can let the process unfold
- Take part in activities that ground you
- Allow space in your life, in your body, in your mind
- Visit nature
- Make contact with a transpersonal psychotherapist to explore your process
- Trust your intuition to guide you
- Be gentle
Therapy: Getting to know emotional patterns, knots, blocks and 'your story' is helpful so it's easier to let it go.
Bodywork: touch is grounding and can help shift, open and release blocks. I like cranio- sacral.
Spend time listening to/ hanging out with an awakened teacher.
Relax as much as possible: walks in nature, epsom salt baths, Yoga Nidra, hugs, sunshine, slow and long out-breaths.
Try and keep the heart open: cultivate gratitude, sing, chant, be with kids, be in nature, create.
Simplify life: work less, be more quiet, limit external stimulation, meditate.
Find friends who speak the language of awakening and can normalise the process.
1) Surrender; there are many layers to surrender and it will become a bedrock of your spiritual life. In the early stages of the kundalini process surrender to the movement of energy. Later become okay with what is, even where it might not fit with your plans, because fighting reality is futile. Finally surrender that part of you that makes up your personality by exploring your inner world to find a deeper sense of who you are.
2) Develop your attention; find a practice that helps you to quieten the mind and find an attentive awareness. This will have a gentle quality to it and it won't be too involved in what it observes. It will allow whatever is arising without any imprinting of ideas or preferences. It will hold what is.
3) Ground the energy; engage in activities that ground the energy into your legs or centres the energy into your dan tien/hara. As you develop your attention this can be as simple as sending your awareness to the lower energy centres.
4) Try to remove stress. Stress isn't a good state for this process where energy is heightened and the sympathetic nervous system can be more easily triggered. Later in the process when you are more grounded and centred you'll be able to handle more stress but you'll more likely prefer a peaceful life.
Well, I had an initial eruption which I could not manage as I was going through an unusual period of extreme anxiety where ancient trauma was bubbling up. The key things that have helped me, I can be put in 3 different phases; the initial crisis, the recovery, and then reaping the benefits.
At the beginning having some understanding of what was happening really helped.. I ended up in hospital being told I had "psychotic depression", and put on heavy meds....not great. Because I knew that this was kundalini I had an alternative framework. It would have been very scary just to have had their pathological one.
Secondly, although none of them really understood what was happening to me friends and family were very supportive...I had daily visits from many people which made me feel very fortunate.
After a very difficult 4 months I was able to function again. It helped though during this, and the first phase, to stop all spiritual practice and concentrate on grounding myself. Going out for walks was the main thing...and being in Nature.
A major breakthrough a year later was meeting others (at Emerging Proud) who had experienced "spiritual emergence",,,,,and the growing sense of being in a community of people who were on a similar path.
Reaping the benefits.
What helped here has been changing perceptions.
Around the time of going to the Emerging Proud Event (so a year or so after the crisis phase) I woke up one morning and felt different. I realised that the childhood trauma that I had suppressed had gone, and negative emotions I had held about my mother had evaporated.
I realised that my kundalini experience was not a curse but a gift.
I cannot remember if it was during phase 2 or 3....but at one point I realised that what was important was not "me" but what I could contribute.
I also realised that what was important was having positive intention, and there was no point being anxious about outcomes. Both the above greatly helped to reduce any remaining anxiety.
I had also experienced that I was not a self (this having no inherent existence) but that I was part of the universal consciousness.
I realised then that this a process with probably no end.
Finally, I have found the books and webinars of Bonnie Greenwell very helpful, as well as the friendship and growing community of the "Kundalini Collective". Both being so positive in helping me to grow my understanding of the process, and to hopefully help me to make the best possible use of it for myself, and more importantly others.
I had it very easy since the beginning, which I can see is not common. I don't know whether it was pure luck or the fact that I trusted it fully. It was scary when it started but it made me feel powerful, happy and free. After realising there was nothing unhealthy about it I simply enjoyed it and let it happen.
Many months later, when I felt overwhelming pain in my chest, I would lay down and relax, focusing on my breath. The pain would always go away after that.
I tend to be very calm so I guess that helped too. I was always open to the unexpected and welcomed every sensation, letting go of every tension in my body when things were getting too crazy. It worked for me and now the flow of energy has been replaced by a sort of peace. No more fluctuations or bursts, just a feeling that I'm pulsing, as if my whole being was a wave of energy.
1) Surrender to the process.
2) If it gets overwhelming, stop for a moment and focus on your breath.
3) Try to be good to yourself during the initial phase, ie try not to second guess the process, reject it, or see yourself as doing something wrong or negative.
4) in the medium term, try and develop a safe space to explore this process both internally and externally.